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  • Writer's pictureCRAIG BRYAN


“The buddy system is the reason I decided to do this with Carolyn,” she says. “I knew that going with her, would almost force me.” 



She and Carolyn motivate each other but aren't competitive.


“It’s like you have a date with this person and you don’t want to let them down,” Carolyn says.


Both women enjoy full-body workouts involving strength training, stretching, and balance exercises.

Why the Buddy System Works So Well


At 73, Carolyn found herself at a crossroads last summer.


Years of spinal trouble and chronic pain had left her too weak to walk to the car alone, let alone drive.


“Everybody was really sweet – ‘Let’s take care of Nana,’” the retired midwife recalls. “But I didn’t want to be that old yet. I still wanted to have a life.”


So, Carolyn started going to a fitness studio twice a week for small group training, which she liked right away.


But things took off when she invited her longtime friend Karen to join her. Both became stronger, more limber and gained better endurance. And they enjoy a tradition of working out twice a week together and going for lunch on Fridays at their favorite Thai restaurant.


They’re proof positive that the buddy system works.


How to encourage exercise success


While some people enjoy working out alone, others find working out with a friend increases their chances of success because:


·         It’s more fun.

·         They hold each other accountable.

·         They share positive feedback and encouragement.

·         It’s a great social outlet and helps them overcome any nervousness about starting to work out.


Dr. Pamela Rackow of the University of Aberdeen had heard anecdotal evidence of all this. “I wanted to know if this was true,” she said – and if it was, then why.


Her research found that having an exercise companion does, indeed, increase the amount of exercise someone does. And the best qualities that made a good partner had more to do with emotional support than “practical” support like never missing a session.


Other tips for being a good workout partner include:


·         Sticking to a list of valid excuses for missing a workout

·         Staying positive

·         Avoiding judgment and sugarcoating alike

·         Supporting healthy eating

·         Celebrating positive milestones


‘It would almost force me’


Karen, 60, is a retired medical assistant. She spent the last several years as a caregiver to her mother and sister.


“In between taking care of everybody else, I didn’t have much time for myself,” she says.


That included spending time with friends. So, joining Carolyn at the gym was a way to practice self-care and enjoy social interaction. She wanted to get stronger for the physical work of keeping up her 15-acre farm.


“I like the way I feel,” Carolyn says, with confidence to enjoy her grandchildren, cook family meals, and travel to the beach.


“I wasn’t ready to be done with life, and I wanted to be able to do certain things. I’m glad I got better, so now I can have some more fun.”

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